Do you feel that you are defined by the amount of money that you make?
Do you feel that you are defined by the job that you have?
Do you feel that you are defined by your position in the company?
Do you feel defined by the bonus at the end of the year?
By the expense of the gift you are given?
By the look of admiration in other people’s eyes?
We are defined not by what we do, or how much we earn, but by how we live our lives. It is HOW and WHY we do the things we do that will determine the people we become.
how are you living yours?
Oh go on now. We all do it from time to time: “If my life was a movie” or “If my life was a book”. We imagine ourselves the lead in our own twisted little tales.
But this story of yours… Where did it come from? How did it develop? Who gave you your script and who cast you in this role?
It all started like this:
When you were born you were a just a wave of possibility.
From the moment of your birth the world endowed you with an identity and a context. The world had a dream for you.
A story has an inherent pattern. Bits of events and thoughts strung together create a predictive coherency and after years of engraining it will start to function like predictive text. You don’t have to think about it. It thinks on your behalf.
The older you got, the more entrenched these beliefs became. They became more and more dense, through constant reinforcing. YOU BECAME YOUR PROJECTED STORY. It started to operate like a container for your life.
Without even thinking about it, you accepted this container. Perhaps you felt disillusioned with some aspects of it, but you still accepted it as a given. The story placed you in the world. It gave you something to hang onto.
The requirements of freedom:
We hang onto the stories of our lives with great determination. We claim it as our own. We claim the pain, the highs and lows. It is rightfully ours; our inheritance; our burden; our past; our future.
If you live unconsciously, your storyline will decide a life for you, and you’ll have little to do with its creation, although you will be the sole beneficiary.
The belief system or worldview that has woven the story for your life isn’t reality. It’s an assumed way of thinking that can be adapted and re-written for optimal use. Your life story is, by and large, outsourced, but it doesn’t have to be.
In order to live as a free person it is imperative that you stop at some point in your life and say: what are the terms and conditions of my existence based on? Why do I believe the things that I believe?
Your storyline is like a plane that’s been programmed to reach a specific destination. If you don’t re-programme the plane, you end up in the same place again and again.
Being free has a lot to do with the story you’ve accepted about yourself, and how you act on it.
The less “story” there is – the less you are projecting onto your life and the more freedom you will have.
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I live in a society where emotions are a currency. We watch it on tv. We tell our friends about it. Drama has become something that seemingly sustains us. Perhaps we believe that it gives meaning to our lives.
An emotion is an animated configuration of energy that expresses your current state of being.
Emotions release energy. A response requires energy, and depending on the intensity of the emotion, it will require more or less of your energy.
Emotions can only manifest through attachment: to ideas, people, events, situations etc. If the attachment is severed the emotion will naturally dissipate.
They are powerful energetic responses. Human beings are defined by how they respond to the world around them.
If you feel anger with someone, you lose energy – even if you don’t ever express your anger directly to them. Your thoughts combined with your emotions direct your energy to that person, sending oodles of your own negativity towards them.
Even positive emotional reactions can be draining. If you win the lottery and you go on an emotional high, it drains you. Too much excitement means at some point you crash.
To respond to something requires engagement. Emotions link us to people and events. Like throwing a ball to a friend, emotions hit us, we hold onto them and then respond.
Every time you have an emotional response, an energetic cord shoots out of you and hooks itself onto whoever or whatever has evoked it. The deeper the emotion, the longer the cord and the bigger the hook.
If you are prone to strong emotional responses, you have hundreds of energetic cords that are attached to your heart from which you send out your energy.
Those little hooks either give energy to the recipient or it take it from them, depending on the day, the circumstances and whether we’re feeling nice or nasty.
Primary emotions are the emotions that have a ‘slow release effect’. They happen under the surface, and are the result of time.
Secondary emotions happen instantaneously. They are immediate reactions to circumstances, and they blow over.
Emotions can be good.
Emotional reactions are one of the ways in which the energetic body cleanses itself. It has a purifying effect: sadness and loss are part of the process of letting go.
It has a purging effect: expressing anger releases pent up energy.
It has a processing effect. It allows us to energetically shift out of places of stuck-ness, so that we can move forward.
Emotional responses point out our wounds. They are great directors in the healing process.
Emotions can also be un-good.
They can be deceptive little monsters. Once you’ve dropped into an emotion, they are difficult to control. They can be overwhelming. They render you needy.
Once they start to rattle and roll there’s no stopping them. Depending on which emotion you’re emoting at the time, this can have all kinds of effects on your life.
An overload of emotions ensure a loss of energy and a loss of control.
The more things you’re “hooked” into, the less power you have over your life, and the more wrapped up you become in things outside of yourself.
Emotions are watery things; when you are in the throws of a strong emotion it’s like being lost at sea. A lot of people spend their entire lives peddling water.
If you want to be a creator, you have to be standing on the beach – that way you can choose when you would like to dive into those tumultuous waves, and see clearly when it will not serve you.
Emotions express our aliveness in a powerful way, but the ultimate experience of aliveness is in being able to see beyond them, to see further and higher, and to save your energy for the process of conscious creation.
Emotional responses are tied to specific beliefs that you hold about yourself and the world. If you let go of the belief, the response is no longer required.
Freedom requires you to have control over your own emotions, so that you are not living a reactive live, but a creative life.
No sweat. All you have to do is this:
Investigate the current boundaries in your life.
Your belief system determines the boundaries in your life. It is the framework you use to make sense of the world around you. It is a way of interpreting events and encounters. It is your container.
It will supply the answers to questions like: What am I? Who am I? Where do I come from? Where am I? Why am I here? What should I consider valuable? What should I consider important? Can I do that? Is that allowed? Is that good? Is it bad? Is it dangerous? Is it desirable? Am I pretty? Am I ok? What happens to me when I die? What is safe? What is dangerous? What is happiness? What gives value to my life? Etc.etc.
You did not waltz onto this spinning globe with a worldview in your pocket. Oh no. When you arrived on planet E you were as clean as this page I’m writing on, an unwritten story, a wave of possibility.
Your family and community taught you cultural beliefs, religions, worldviews and gave you specific guidelines for interpreting information to help you cope with society and interact reasonably well with other people.
Depending on where you were born – the African Kalahari or in an igloo at the North Pole – this way of interpreting the world might be completely unique and very precise, created to sustain a certain way of life and to ensure longevity.
Beliefs are an editing system for the brain: in every moment, your brain observes your surroundings critically, eliminating what it perceives to be erroneous or inconsequential to your belief system, and focusing solely on what it considers to be vital and important to your specific worldview.
The older you get, the more invested you become in this way of thinking; invested in the sense that your belief becomes stronger, and your belief system and operational programmes more rigid.
These beliefs that you harbour can be likened to computer programmes. Some of these programmes serve you, and some simply slow down your hard drive and cause you pain. Just like your computer, your personal programmes need to be checked and upgraded often, if you are to ensure optimal usability and an enhanced experience.
Unhappiness is often the result of a conflict between the programmes you’ve had uploaded and the desires of your soul.
If your belief system conflicts with your desires, it creates major problems: A man in line to become the next King, but who desires to be a trapeze artist, might end up having a very hard time.
If he never recognizes that his own belief that his destiny is pre-ordained is blocking him from being who he truly is and give himself permission to demolish that belief, he will become a prisoner to himself and his mind. He will live a dull and unfullfilling, prescribed life when he could have been doing tricks in tights whilst balancing on a wire all along.
Belief systems are important; they serve as a kind of firewall in our lives and are there to keep us safe, but if they are completely subconscious and very solid, they can interfere with the soul’s desires and cause massive internal conflict.
A belief system should support you, not control you. It should remain flexible and fluid, allowing space for personal improvisation and exploration along the way. The happiest people are the ones who are able to claim complete ownership and architectural rights over their own minds and hearts.
A worldview remains only that – a view. It is one of millions of optional truths. The more you are able to splash and roll around in them, taking what works for you and discarding the rest, the better the chances are that you will gain happiness and contentment.
Your energy circuits can be re-wired. In some cases, you simply need to unplug. Reality is a construct; it’s pliable and bendable.
Self-Uncovery is about letting go of your pre-programming – you preconceived ideas, expectations and judgements – so you can wake up and become conscious.
Get off auto-pilot and start driving your own plane again.
Get in touch with that glorious, ancient part of you that’s expansive, as big as the Universe itself. Unwrap from the bonds that keep you spinning around inside your own little head; there’s so much out there.
The less tied you are to excessive and conflicting boundaries, the easier it is for energy to travel through your system. Open your heart. Release yourself.
We choose our own reality, whether we do it consciously or not. We choose what to consider important. We choose what will bring us happiness.
Freedom is intricately tied to the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves: what you believe you are entitled to have, what you’re allowed to do and what you’re expected to become influences how broad the choices are that you make.
Your whole life is based on a point of view.
You might as well pick a fun one.