Modern human beings have become very fond of planning their lives down to the finest details – just to make sure that we don’t take any chances.
We have five-year plans, ten-year plans, retirement plans. We are driven. We have focus. We know where we’re going and how to get there. All of our lives are spent always going there, over there, just over the next hill. Life is always waiting for us somewhere in the future.
In the meanwhile we have to make sure that we will fit the bill when we get there. We have to control our circumstances, our bodies, our environment, ourselves.
We have to project a certain image. We have to make the right impression. We have to play the part. We create versions of ourselves – versions that are intended to fulfil certain requirements. We want our parents to nod in acknowledgement. We want our peers to be jealous.
How censored has your life become?
Every time you censor yourself you are building another wall in your belief system and caging yourself in.
Most people have big dreams they want to realise, and in principle there is absolutely nothing wrong with this. The question is though: what drives you to want these great big things? Why do you want to stand out? What is your desire trying to satisfy?
If you are constantly striving for something, there is an excellent chance that you are busy negating something else. The more you project forward in your life, the less you are able to allow what is currently inside of you to simply emerge.
How much of your soul are you swallowing so that you can keep on pretending to be closer to something that you’re not?
When is the last time you relaxed, let your hair down, and felt like it was safe and ok for you to just be your quirky, imperfect self??
Can you allow yourself to fail miserably? Can you allow yourself to be incredibly successful?
Can you allow yourself to be ordinary? Can you allow yourself to be average?
Can you allow yourself to be vulnerable? Can you allow yourself to take a risk?
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