Oh go on now. We all do it from time to time: “If my life was a movie” or “If my life was a book”. We imagine ourselves the lead in our own twisted little tales.
But this story of yours… Where did it come from? How did it develop? Who gave you your script and who cast you in this role?
It all started like this:
When you were born you were a just a wave of possibility.
From the moment of your birth the world endowed you with an identity and a context. The world had a dream for you.
A story has an inherent pattern. Bits of events and thoughts strung together create a predictive coherency and after years of engraining it will start to function like predictive text. You don’t have to think about it. It thinks on your behalf.
The older you got, the more entrenched these beliefs became. They became more and more dense, through constant reinforcing. YOU BECAME YOUR PROJECTED STORY. It started to operate like a container for your life.
Without even thinking about it, you accepted this container. Perhaps you felt disillusioned with some aspects of it, but you still accepted it as a given. The story placed you in the world. It gave you something to hang onto.
The requirements of freedom:
We hang onto the stories of our lives with great determination. We claim it as our own. We claim the pain, the highs and lows. It is rightfully ours; our inheritance; our burden; our past; our future.
If you live unconsciously, your storyline will decide a life for you, and you’ll have little to do with its creation, although you will be the sole beneficiary.
The belief system or worldview that has woven the story for your life isn’t reality. It’s an assumed way of thinking that can be adapted and re-written for optimal use. Your life story is, by and large, outsourced, but it doesn’t have to be.
In order to live as a free person it is imperative that you stop at some point in your life and say: what are the terms and conditions of my existence based on? Why do I believe the things that I believe?
Your storyline is like a plane that’s been programmed to reach a specific destination. If you don’t re-programme the plane, you end up in the same place again and again.
Being free has a lot to do with the story you’ve accepted about yourself, and how you act on it.
The less “story” there is – the less you are projecting onto your life and the more freedom you will have.